I’m feeling the need to vent. Maybe I shouldn’t be writing when I’m over-tired. Sigh.
I’m finding myself frustrated, and, quite honestly, my feelings are hurt. I find myself very confused. Am I the only person who gives a rip about the things that follow (see below), or should I visit a doctor to make sure my hormones aren’t seriously out of whack?
Here are a few things that confound me:
- Why do some people delete wall posts that simply explain that you miss them and love them? Yes, this happened to me, and yes, my feelings are hurt. I just don’t understand. 😦
- Why do some people choose not to respond to texts or voicemails…from people they know very well? I mean, I don’t expect a person to respond to every single text. The texting would never end. But when a person doesn’t respond to the first one? That’s different. This is feeding into the complex that has been growing over the years. Sigh.
- If you send a picture to someone via text, why doesn’t the person comment or respond about it? Not. One. Word. Even when the picture might be about something that the person might actually care about. I just don’t understand.
- Why do some people simply refuse to reach out…only communicating when someone else initiates the contact? I’ve had friends who’ve done this in the past, and it hurt my feelings back then. I tend to call and check up on people. My feelings are getting hurt again…especially because the people I want to hear from most are the people I care about the most. I think it speaks volumes when someone doesn’t take the initiative. Ever. Sigh.
Sorry to be such a downer. I’m not usually this way, but honestly, this stuff has been building. For a while. And I am frustrated. And hurt. And confused. Especially when I try really hard to love the people in my life.
Sigh.
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Well, I think in this world of mega communication we have more opportunity for hurt feelings. We’ve had a situation recently that falls into this general category and we’re trying not to have hurt feelings but we’re only partly succeeding.
A blog is a good place to vent : )
I share some of your frustrations, but I don’t know the solution. When it happens on a regular basis, I hate to break off contact completely, but I wonder if that isn’t the only way to react.
1. Perhaps s/he doesn’t feel comfortable with public displays of affection? Or… they haven’t learned how to use the privacy features and they don’t want certain ppl in their friend list to see b/c it’s private to them?
2. I am guilty of this – A LOT.. and well, I don’t mean to be mean… i guess i don’t think of each text as individual important messages like an email or phone call. More like notifications or simple greetings. When I receive a text, I assume they know I’ve read it and understood. I usually only reply if it’s a direct question or if s/he clearly wants my opinion on something or I don’t understand what was being texted to me. I never really thought of texts as a starting point of a discussion.
3. Again – I am guilty of this – A LOT. Usually I look at the picture and don’t respond unless there isn’t any inquiry attached to it, Sometimes if I have an immediate reaction to it that I have to share i’ll text the person about it Often times when I get a picture message, it doesn’t register on my phone for a full 10 minutes or even more depending on the file size and the immediate reaction opportunity is lost.
4. I totally and completely relate to this. I was actually thinking of blogging about it too! Honestly, I used to make the effort and attempt to keep up the friendship since they were important to me even if they didn’t initiate it because when we did connect, it was positive and we had a good conversation or a good time together. Friends who fell in this category initially contacted me when I got sick, but fell into the same pattern again shortly after. Since I became suddenly ill, I realized life is too short to chase after someone who doesn’t value me enough to “give” in the “give and take”. It’s sad and hurtful because I have lost a few friends simply by waiting for them to contact me first, but I’d rather devote my energies to those who value me enough to want to connect with me.
I’m also the one who usually initiates the contact. I get really tired of it sometimes. I mean, if they really want to be my friend, wouldn’t they make the attempt to contact me?
I had (notice the past tense) an intern this semester for a couple of weeks, and she never responded to the 2 e-mails I sent her. I don’t get it. Maybe my mama taught me better than hers taught her. Rude.
Is it possible that any of these non-responding people have a chronic ailment? I do, and although I would LOVE to communicate/answer emails and other media, sometimes I simply don’t have the least bit of energy to do it. I get the most precious pix of young niece/nephew from my sister. Phone call from older nephew (son of husband’s brother). Long narrative email from friend.
All of these within the past three weeks, when I was in the middle of the absolutely worst fibro flare I’ve had in over five years. Along with migraines, which *had been* controlled, but a flare throws everything off-base.
Just a possibility I thought I’d raise. It’s not any less painful for you, but it may make some non-responses understandable.
Well, not really. The people I had in mind…or rather “person,” is young and does not have physical ailments. This person does not respond to messages by choice. It’s discouraging. But, your response serves as a good reminder not to judge by the looks of things because sometimes, as you said, there are medical reasons why people don’t stay in touch. Thanks for your thoughts. 🙂