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His Tender Side

Do you remember the blanket, hat, and booties that I made for Kat and Tyler?

Their baby girl was due on the 1st of September.

Shockingly for a first baby, Baby J arrived on her due date!

Rooster and I went by the hospital for a visit on Friday evening.

The room contained several visitors, and everyone was taking turns holding this precious poundage of love.  🙂

Imagine my surprise when my nearly six-foot, seventeen year old Rooster boy opened up his arms impatiently, indicating that he was ready to introduce himself to Baby J.

This boy has never held a newborn.

He knew nothing, I thought, about supporting a baby’s neck.

Dancing Girl, who was visiting at the time, gently handed J over to Rooster, who carefully sat in a chair.

I sat, enthralled, while this child of mine cradled that sweet little girl.

As she made little baby faces…sticking out her tongue in the process…Rooster imitated her, speaking gently to her in the process.

I snapped a photo, which I wish I could share with you.

Oh my gosh, but my heart was touched as I watched him interact with this wee one.

He loves Kat and Tyler.  He’s known Tyler for a number of years…way before there was a Kat in his life.

Tyler grew up in our church and returned to foster the kids in the youth group.

As Rooster has watched Tyler’s family grow, he has commented on how interesting it’s been to watch Tyler get married and, now, to have his own baby.

Thus, it was quite natural for him to transfer his love for this sweet, self-giving couple to their precious bundle of joy.

As I stood on the sidelines watching my own boy give his love so unselfishly, I was once again reminded how quickly time is flying by…how much my own child has grown in maturity.  I’ve always known that this boy of mine, whose teenage frustration rears its ugly head at times, has a tender side.

It wasn’t a far leap to imagine him, in a few years, cradling his own child.

It was a sweet moment for me.

The Last First Day

Dear Rooster,

I wanted to take a moment to say a few words on this, your last first day of high school.

I cannot believe that you are about to embark on your final few months of school.  It seems like David Copperfield has pulled one of his magic tricks on me, because I could have sworn that the last time I looked, you were five years old, four feet nothing, and about to start kindergarten at Big City Elementary School.

That day was difficult for me.  I had been used to you hanging out with me…running errands and eating lunch together.

You were my buddy.

On that first day of kindergarten, I could not stay in the house by myself…especially not at lunch time.

Instead, I made my way to TCBY and blubbered out the fact that my baby had just started school.

The gal sympathetically handed my Reese’s-laden frozen yogurt over the counter with a sad smile on her face.

Sigh.

My how things change.

Today, you tower over me at nearly six feet tall, and instead of me being the person to take you for ice cream after school, you now sit in the drivers seat.  Heck, instead of walking you to school, you are driving yourself.  What is up with that?

Dude, I can’t even begin to tell you how proud I am of you.

As you enter school this morning, finally at the top of the pecking order, make sure that you walk in proud…proud of what it’s taken to bring you to this precipice.

It’s going to be a great Fall.  I can’t wait to see you in your band uniform and watch you play during the final football games and band competitions of your high school career.

I love you more than you know, and I am honored to have been by your side these last thirteen years of school.

Love,

Mama

Outwitted!

A couple of weeks ago, I asked Rooster to do me a favor and take the paper and plastic stuff I’d been collecting to the recycling center on his way to church.

He fussed and complained loudly, even refusing to do it.

I desperately wanted him to take care of this errand, so I did something smart stupid.

I told him that he could have a “Get Out of a Chore For Free” card…one-time use…that he could pull out any time he wanted.

Silly me thought, a week later while hanging his clothes on the line, that I would count that as the chore.

I.

Can.

Be.

Stupid.

Sometimes.

I would later find out that the task I’d completed for him did not fall within the parameters that I, myself, had created.

Fast forward to today.

Rooster had spent a couple of evenings away, so he had some chores to catch up on.

One of them was these…

First, though, I wanted him to put away the clean dishes in the dishwasher.

Typical of most teenagers, he hemmed and hawed…putting me off all day.

Finally, I demanded that he get the dishes put away so he could start washing the pile above.

That’s when he did something very smart unkind.

He pulled out his “Get Out of a Chore” card.

And he did it with glee…

And a huge, triumphant smile on his face.

Take another look at that picture.

It’s not difficult to believe how annoyed I was.

Parents of young children, you would be wise to take the following advice:  Don’t make stupid deals with your children.  Sure, you might get what you want in that moment, but believe you me, you WILL pay for your stupidity later.

Forget instant gratification.  Keep the future in mind.

You do not want to be scooping poop for a week or washing every dish in the house.

It’s not worth it.

Nor is it fun to be outwitted by an almost 17 year old teenage boy…no matter how stinkin’ cute said boy might be.

She Still Needs Me

Thursday night, I headed to bed…rather late.

I’ve been burning the midnight oil as I desperately work to finish up my EPI classes.

So, I hadn’t been asleep very long when I heard a female voice whisper, “Mama.  Will you come sleep in my bed?”

“Huh?” I asked groggily.

“Mama.  I watched Criminal Minds before I went to bed, and I had a bad dream.  Please come sleep in my room.”

So, I did what any mother would have done.

I rolled over, turned off my alarm clock, grabbed my phone on the way to her room, and set the alarm on it.

“You can have as much of the cover as you want,” she said, as I crawled into bed beside her.

I think I heard her sigh in relief.

Chicky’s not much into sharing her personal space, let me tell you, so this was a very big deal.

As soon as my alarm went off at o’dark thirty…as dawn was peeking through the slats of the blinds, I heard her say, “You can go now.”

I’d been dismissed.

I thought she’d learned her lesson.

Ha.

As I was typing this post, I received a text message.

It was from Chicky.

She’d gone to bed a scant fifteen minutes ago.

“You can sleep in here again if you want.”

“Ok,” I replied.

I’m signing off now…heading into her room to chase the bad guys and demons away.

It’s nice to know that my 19 year old baby girl still needs me.

A Sad Farewell

Today marks the passing of an era.

The school of my childhood is closing its doors for good.

I attended Small Town School from seventh through twelfth grades.  Classes ranged in size from seven students to thirty.  Every grade was comprised of one class, thus it was a small school.  Kids had gone to school together since kindergarten.

May 22nd will mark twenty three years since I graduated.

Time has really flown by.

The school was originally opened in 1966.  Many students have passed through its doors from then to now.  So have a number of teachers.

The year that I graduated, my math teacher retired.  She had been hired the second year the school opened, making for a grand total of twenty-one years of work in one place.  This was especially amazing because this teacher drove almost an hour to work each day.  She was the senior class sponsor.  Truth be told, I think my class did her in and made her finally throw in the towel.

LOL

I’m finding it rather difficult to image Small Town without the school.  So much of who I am today is a result of what happened within those walls.

I’ll never forget huddling by my locker with my first boyfriend.  I remember the day that he hid behind me in an attempt to obscure the principal’s view of him.  He had just gotten his ear pierced, and in those days, boys did not pierce their ears.  It was quite shocking.

I remember the year I had Mr. H as my PE teacher.  We spent our class time walking laps…around his pecan orchard/back yard.  The goal was to never let him pass you because if he did, you owed him an extra lap.

I hated PE from that year forward.

It was also in that backyard where I grew to despise the game of softball after one of my classmates struck a ball that hit me squarely in the knee.  I’ll never forget another classmate picking me up and carrying me up the huge hill.

Mr. H doubled as my typing teacher.  He had been in the military, and let me tell you…the military does not fool around.  We were never allowed to look at our keys, and perfection was demanded out of us.  I lived in fear of Mr. H’s watchful eyes.

His method worked.

I won the state typing championship in 1987, I think…on a manual typewriter.

There are so many, many memories of Small Town School…

Dinner theaters, getting out of class for weeks on end to decorate the gym for prom, football games, dances, making muffins in Home Ec, getting dragged around the school yard while holding onto a mop (I was mature even in my youth…HA!).

Home basketball games were so much fun as was traveling to away games.  Basketball players were required to dress up for away games.  I wonder if they still have that rule.  I remember running one suicide after another in that old gym.  I sucked at running, and I always came in last, which meant I had to run the most suicides as the drill was repeated endlessly.

I’ll never forget losing a classmate in the eighth grade.  It was one of the most devastating experiences of my young life.  Attending her funeral with my classmates was one of the saddest days during my time at Small Town School.  Her parents stayed active in our lives, threw us a graduation party, and created a scholarship their daughter’s honor.  Graduation was a tearful experience as another of my classmates received the very first endowment.

I’ll never forget the day when some of my male *cough* classmates poured superglue on my science teacher’s chair and watched as the teacher sat there, permanently affixing himself to the chair.  That was a bad day for everyone involved.

I remember listening to tales being told of paddlings that had been doled out.  Back in my day, this was still allowed.  Even girls got paddled.  I didn’t.  I was a teacher’s pet.

I remember when my best friend and I visited a classmate in the hospital after he broke his leg during a football game.  I think we were seniors.  We bought him a sketch pad and colored pencils.  This guy had tortured me endlessly since the seventh or eighth grade (all because someone had seen me looking at him like I “liked” him on his first day of school, told him, which led him to hate me and treat me poorly for years).  He looked me squarely in the eyes and apologized that day.

Small Town School was a time of much growth in each student’s life, you see.

I remember my first Christmas at the school.  I did not know that the girls bought gifts for everyone.

And I mean e-v-e-r-y-o-n-e.

I was mortified.

I made up for my lapse the next year and bought all kinds of goodies for the girls.

I still treasure one of the gifts I received one year.  One of my classmates was very artistic, and she decorated plastic plates for everyone, writing their names in the middle.

I still have mine, and I don’t like when other people eat on it.

Tight bonds form when you attend a school that small.

For a school that, in my time, didn’t have internet, cable, or texting, we still managed to stay connected to one another.

Time marched on, I graduated, and so did twenty three more classes.

Over the course of the last year, through the wonderful invention of Facebook, I have been able to plug in to what’s been happening at Small Town School.  It’s been interesting to see pictures of my childhood friends’ children as they enjoyed many of the same activities that generations of children had experienced.  Although the styles of clothing might be updated, the school spirit, joy, and closeness has been exactly the same.

And so I bid a sad farewell to the school of my youth, and I offer up prayers for those who will disperse to other schools, separated from the friends they have grown up with.

Saying goodbye is never easy.

Remember, though, that no matter where we may go, we’ll always share the unique experience of having been a part of Small Town School.

The Payoff

As you know, Rooster has been in band for the last two years.

When he joined up his Sophomore year, he had very little experience reading music.  He’s a play-by-ear kind of kid.  He felt fortunate to make cymbals that first year, and he certainly learned a lot and got some fabulous arm muscles in the process.

Last year, he made tenors, and I watched as his skills improved weekly.

There were a lot of ups and downs this year in band, and Rooster gave serious thought to not trying out for his senior year.

Things changed a couple of months ago, and Rooster got his band mojo back.  He eagerly awaited the day of tryouts.

That day came on Thursday.

Rooster had a goal…

To make snares.

He worked hard.  I frequently heard him practicing in his room in between games on XBox Live.

I think he might have thrown a little bit of studying in there somewhere.

The Mr. and I eagerly awaited Rooster’s arrival home.  With him driving now, there’s no car ride in which to chat.

The Mr. went so far as to drive by the school, hoping to catch an earful of that wonderful drumming music.  Instead, he saw the kids walking back inside (they had been drumming outside).

Finally, Rooster sent me a text that let me know he was on his way home.

Two minutes later, he arrived (we live next door to the school).

He had made it.

Duh.

No.

He had made snares.

He had the blisters on his fingers to prove it.

My sweet boy, who, while in middle school (only a few short years ago) had watched Podunk High School’s drumline play during football games and decided that he wanted to be a part of the fun, had reached his goal.

He had worked hard, and the payoff was worth it.

I am so excited for him.

I am also incredibly proud of him.

Rooster tends to be a shy kind of kid.

It takes a lot of guts to try out for a high school band when you never played in middle school.

I am going to remember his example whenever I get discouraged and feel like quitting in my quest to reach my own goals.

Rooster, I love you and want you to know that you truly are a one-of-a-kind guy.  I am proud to be called your Mama.

Beat of Life

Yesterday, Rooster attended a pre-tryout percussion clinic.  It was held after school with the purpose of preparing those who are going to be trying out for the percussion section of the marching band.

Rooster had informed me that he probably would not be finished until 7:30pm.

I left home around 6:30 and headed to Panera to pick up dinner.  I wanted to make it home before American Idol started.

As I meandered my way back to my house, I took a back road that led me past Rooster’s school.

Because the weather has been absolutely glorious here, I had my windows down.

As I passed by the school, I heard drumming, so I turned my head to see what was going on.

Standing beside the school were several bass players, drums hung over their shoulders, practicing their little hearts out.

Rooster was not among them.  He is trying out for snares this year, so he was practicing somewhere else on campus.

Still, I was touched by the dedication of the students I heard playing.

Who really wants to be at school from 7am until 8pm when they could be home watching TV or playing Xbox?

When Rooster finally came home at 8:15, he was dead tired.

His feet and legs hurt.

His hands were sporting three or four blisters as well.

The band will be under new leadership next year, but the changes that have already been put into place have been positive ones.  He has a renewed love and enthusiasm for this school activity, and I could not be happier.

As I listened to him tell me about his long afternoon, I was reminded of the poem he submitted for a poetry contest last year.

He wrote it for extra credit for his English class (I, being the mean mom that I am, made him do the extra credit to earn some much needed points).  His poem was one of several selected to be published in a booklet that the contest’s sponsor produced.

The poem is below…

Beat of Life

With every measure of  music I play
The beat of life comes rocking my way
When I hit my drum with all my heart
I also have to remember my part
If I don’t keep up with the rhythm
Then I may have to put up with the schism
If I make sure to play it right
My line will make sure to keep it tight
The better and better that my chops get
The more and more that my spot is set
So if you think I can’t survive
The beat of life allows me to stay alive

Rooster has always marched to the beat of his own drum.

The song he plays is music to my ears.

Someone Gets a Promotion

As you might remember, Chicky spent her 19th birthday away from home.  It was a first for us.

Although I couldn’t be with her to make her day extra-special (my viewpoint, not her’s), I was comforted by the fact that she could be share her day with the college friends she has become close with.

She also had Guy Friend to keep her company.

Oh yes…Guy Friend.

Let’s talk about him for a minute…or two…or three.  You know I’m wordy.

Guy Friend first came into our lives when Chicky was in the 11th grade.

He was a senior.

We had known his mom for a number of years.  His family attends the same church as we do.  We had watched him play soccer a few times.

Still, it was a little surprising when Chicky began “liking” him.

As a mother, it can be difficult to watch your little girl gravitate toward a guy.

But gravitate she did.

Although they were not allowed to go out on dates, Chicky and Guy Friend became regular visitors at both families’ homes.

Chicky went with him to his senior prom.

And still, I would not let them date.

I am very conservative, you see.

Guy Friend left for college, and Chicky had to stay behind to endure her senior year.

Then, she made the fateful decision to attend Southeastern University, where he was also enrolled.

Still, she was not allowed to “date.”

He remained “Guy Friend.”

College life for Chicky.

Freedom.

I still wouldn’t call their lunches and dinners together “dates.”

And then I read April’s blog post about her daughter’s dating woes.

Hmmm…

And then Chicky had the most wonderful birthday dinner with Guy Friend.

He had saved his money so he could treat her to Emeril’s in Orlando.

They shopped.

Chicky and I talked about it on the phone the next day.

I saw her pictures on Facebook.

She was glowing with joy.

I pondered…

I have always liked Guy Friend.

I have always been grateful that he is a Christian and avidly studies his Bible.

Guy Friend and I have had a few frank talks.  You do that when you’re a mom.  He has always listened respectfully.

I pondered…

Chicky is now 19 years old.

I think she is finally ready to have a “boyfriend.”

So, Guy Friend, consider this your promotion.

You have patiently waited for this moment.

You’ve earned it.

Clearly, you make my daughter happy.

You are now “officially” allowed to date.

I’ll admit…calling you the “b” word is going to take some getting used to.

It can take a while to train an old dog.

So, if I stumble as I try to say the word, please be patient.

I’ll get there eventually.

One more thing.

This does not give you permission to kiss her.

Save that for your wedding day.

Love,

Your girlfriend’s mother ♥

Hug-Fest!

As you know, I’ve been off this week.

I kept myself busy on Monday and Tuesday.

This morning, I almost decided to take Rooster to school in my robe, but at the last minute, I pulled on a sweatshirt, jeans, and a random pair of flip flops.  I figured nobody would be seeing me, so who cared.

After dropping off Rooster in the car loop, I made a last-second decision to park the car.  I was on a mission…to find a movie version of The Scarlet Letter.

Rooster’s high school has been very generous in helping me out, so off I trudged to the media center.

I got the okay from one of the school employees to take a look in the room that houses the movies.

On my way across the library, I saw Chicky and Rooster’s English teacher from last year (although in different grades, both were fortunate to have the same teacher).  I stopped to say ask how she was doing, and she told me, in a semi-panicked voice, that her child was ill, and she was looking for a sub.

I had told the ladies in the office that I would welcome the opportunity to sub this week as a way to spend time with the kids who are near and dear to my heart and as a way to earn a few extra dollars.

So, hearing the teacher’s response, I told her that my subbing credentials were still in order.

She asked, “Don’t you have to work today?”

She knows that I have my own teaching job because I had approached her for assistance.

“Nope,” I responded.  “I’m off this week.  Do you want me to sub for you?”

Her face instantly transformed to one of relief.

My heart filled with joy.

It was a God-thing.

I asked for a bit of time to run back home and change my clothes.  Because I live next to the school, this was not a big deal.  It gave her a chance to get her first class settled and for her to write instructions for me.

I was excited when I saw her students.  I recognized quite a few.  Many were from the teacher’s class that I subbed in for a month in January.

You could not have wiped the smile from my face.

Second period was a repeat of the first one.  As the students entered the room, their faces lit up.

They were genuinely happy to see me.

The feeling was mutual.

Next, I had planning, followed by lunch.  I was able to run home and create a vocabulary test for one of my classes.  I am using every spare minute to get things made up for the weeks leading up to Christmas.  It is my hope that I will be able to focus on teaching, reviewing, and Christmas shopping, rather than test-making, printing, and copying.  Those tasks really eat into a teacher’s week!

After lunch, I returned for fourth period.  The school is on a block schedule, so there are four 90-minute classes.  Personally, I love the schedule.  Teachers have three classes and a planning.  It’s divine.

Anyhoo…I digress…

Fourth period consisted of tenth graders…my 9th graders from last year.

Oh.

My.

Word.

Their smiles were, if it’s possible, BIGGER than the other classes’.

One of my students was so happy to see me that she added the following under my name on the board…

Do you see that little tag line?

Bestill my beating heart.

I love that girl.

No.  I’m serious.  I really do.

We have a very special connection.

Her dad, who is also a sub, sat with Chicky after she was in a fender bender.  At the time, I didn’t know who he was, but one day, I was in the front office helping out, and he came to check out his daughter.

When I heard him speak her name, I introduced myself.  When he heard my name, he asked if Chicky was my daughter.

We put two and two together, and BINGO.  There was that connection.

It was such a great day.

I have missed these students.  Many have grown taller.  I have seen a few of them at various school functions, and they have always inquired about when I would be subbing for them again.

This is my only opportunity this year to sub.  My school’s Spring schedule follows the public school schedule.

God is so gracious and so kind by allowing me this opportunity.

The best thing is that I get to go back tomorrow.

Getting paid to be with students I love…it’s a tough way to make a living, but somebody’s gotta do it!

Black Ops Gets Taken Hostage

I had a little Facebook conversation with Rooster today.  I thought you might enjoy reading it.

Me, posting on his wall:

Know what? I love you!! ♥

Him:

I’m at school… on my phone… gonna ground me??

Me:

Yep. You know better, oh child of mine. Guess I will have to take Black Ops hostage!

Him (via a friend, supposedly):

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!111!!!11!!! LEAVE BLACK OPS ALONE!

So, I did what every good mother does in this situation…

I uploaded this picture…

I also included this caption:

Eat your heart out, Rooster.

I then proceeded to upload one more picture, in case he didn’t get the message with the first one…

My caption for this one went like this:

Rooster, you’ll be lucky if you can pry the game out of my hands now! You were right…this IS an addicting game!

This got a response out of him:

You aren’t even playing… you are at the main menu.

Me:

Like, duh. You totally locked me out or something. I pressed every combination of buttons possible. But it was a fun ten minutes!!

BTW, get off of your phone NOW. I’ll call the school myself and report you.

Which prompted a response from one of his friends:

hahahahahahahhahaahahahahaha she got you good

I didn’t hear back from him after that.

When I picked him up from school, he was laughing.

I got him…real good.

But, he got the last laugh.  It turns out that not only was I using the controller with dead batteries (hence a big reason why the game wouldn’t work), but I also had the headset on backwards.

I’m such a dork sometimes.