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Happy 16th Birthday, Rooster!

It seems like only yesterday that I was wishing Chicky a happy 16th birthday.

Now, it’s my baby’s turn.

I think Father Time has been running on the treadmill lately.  Whatever happened to my little guy who I could set in the middle of the living room floor and return minutes later to find him keeping himself happy with a piece of carpet lint (he was quite the easy-going lad).

Oh wait.

He turned into the young man who just this weekend found himself sitting fairly still for hours…in front of his Xbox with three friends and his oldest cousin.

Yeah, that’s how he spent Friday…five Xbox consoles, five TVs, and one very hot room with all of that electronic equipment running.

The only time the boys emerged was to grab chicken nuggets from the Chick fil A party platter we’d brought home or to get drinks of water.

Typical boys…give them a game console and food, and you never hear from them.

We went to a movie on Saturday (more about that in my next post), but we’re saving our traditional “birthday dinner out” until after graduation…knock out two birds with one stone.

All around, it has been a fairly low-key birthday, but still a huge milestone.

Rooster is more than a Modern Warfare junkie (that’s the newest and most popular Xbox game).

He is a young man who began going to Wednesday night youth group before Chicky.  He encouraged her to go each week, and finally, she did.

He is a young man who woke up extra early during Easter week to attend church services BEFORE school.

Rooster is a young man who jumps at every chance to spend time at church.  Two years ago, he went to Kentucky on a two-week mission trip, and he is planning on going to an Indian reservation out West for another mission trip this summer.

Rooster is a young man who, when asked to help out fellow church-goers, will eagerly lend a hand.  He recently assisted the youth pastor in pulling roofing off of his house.

Rooster is a young man who gave up two social invitations to spend time with me on my birthday because, in his words, “In three years, I won’t be here to celebrate your birthday with you.  I’ll be in college.”

Happy Birthday, Rooster.  It is a privilege watching you grow and mature into the man God intends you to be.  I consider it an honor to be your mama, and I love you very much.

10 Years Just Flew By

We’ve all heard the saying…”Time flies when you’re having fun.”

Well, for the AuburnChick household, ten years flew by quicker than a bag of M&M’s in the Mr.’s hands.

What leads me down this road of reminiscing?

Chicky’s last bid for a State Cup title.

Chicky’s team came in 3rd.  That final game has eluded her once again, but it is okay…a little bittersweet, but o-kay.

Ten years ago, Chicky started playing travel soccer.  She had already played two years in the recreational league before getting invited to try out for the local select team.

Oh the nerves, as we waited, in the rain, for the coach to post the list of those who had made it.

We went out to dinner after, celebrating her accomplishment.

Thus began the journey.

I remember the first summer as incredibly hot and humid.  Chicky’s coach insisted on mid-day practices.  We were miserable.  I can’t believe Chicky stuck it out.

Come fall, we were glad for the coach’s wisdom, because our girls were in better shape than any other team.  We enjoyed watching our eight year olds run circles around what would become our nemesis teams, practicing some of the new skills they had just learned.

Back in the early years, we did not travel far.  Our games rarely took us more than 45 minutes away from home.

As Chicky’s skills improved, the Mr. and I grew more knowledgeable about youth soccer.  He was voted to become the Club’s President, while I served as Team Mom.  However, we moved to north Florida before his reign began, and we started all over again with a new club.

We had scouted out teams and purposefully selected her new one based on its record.  Chicky was a nervous wreck when she tried out.  The team’s practices were as fast as her former team’s best games.

She made the team but had to earn her starting position.

This is when the heavy traveling began.

Our second tournament was in Washington, D.C.  Not only did we buy a new washer and dryer that month, but we also paid for airfare for the entire family.  It was then that I began my part-time job.

Chicky’s team did not win the tournament, but she showed her stuff and earned the spot she wanted.

Rooster had also been playing soccer, so the kids kept us busy with their team schedules.

When you live in north Florida, you have to travel a lot to play good teams, so traveling is what we did.

Chicky changed teams after about three years when the local team broke up.  You’ve just gotta love soccer politics.

Thank goodness for it, though, because Chicky’s new team was a fabulous assortment of players with an amazing coach.  We drove Chicky two and a half hours each way for practices two or three afternoons a week.  She would leave straight from school, and we wouldn’t return until 10:30 or 11pm at night.

Chicky learned the meaning of true dedication.

After Chicky got hurt in 9th grade, she took half a season off.  In the meantime, things changed again, and she joined a new team on the other side of the state.

Practices were held on weekends with games on opposite weekends.  What a crazy life!  After a year and a half, Chicky changed teams, returning to her former team.  However, that’s when she discovered just how competitive she really is, and she returned to her other team…this time for good.

Over the years, we have experienced quite a few things.

We stayed in dumpy motels and really nice hotels.  We’ve seen every kind of breakfast buffet known to man, free and otherwise.

We can tell you every restaurant across north Florida, and the bathrooms in between.

Chicky played in more tournaments than I can count.

My favorite was the trip to San Diego, although most of what I did between games was write papers and study.  It also happens to be the tournament during which I started writing this blog.

I enjoyed the Las Vegas trip we made after San Diego.  I had just finished college and splurged at two fabulous yarn stores I found in town.

My least-favorite games were held in Georgia in the middle of the winter.  One of the parents took a picture of me all wrapped up.  This was the time before Mr. Heater.

Some of my favorite memories will be those of Chicky and her best friend, with whom we carpooled to practices with.  Chicky tends to be a quiet girl until she gets to know a person.  But then look out.  She becomes Ms. Personality.  Her best friend is a true ham in the sense of the word.  Put the two girls together, and there is non-stop laughter.

I found it fitting that we ate dinner with Best Friend and her dad after the game on Saturday.

As I sit here and reflect, I give thanks to God for the friendships we made over the years.  On Saturday, it was a love-fest at the hotel and the soccer fields as we ran into former teammates and their families.  I know that we will continue to keep up with them during the next four years as most of the girls will play soccer in college.

Still, things will be different.

No more getting lost and calling Mr. B. for help navigating.  No more checking into the hotel where the staff truly knew our names because we were there two or three weekends a month.  The early Saturday morning wake-up calls will, for the most part, be a thing of the past (thank goodness).  And all the dinners out…my credit card might yet recover!

I am excited for Chicky as she embarks on the next phase of her soccer career, and I wish our friends the best in the years to come.

I am sure the next ten years will fly by as quickly as the previous ones did!

Sibling Bonding

Chicky and Rooster have taken on a new challenge:  lifeguarding classes.

The course runs for seven nights (6 to 10) at our community college.

I figured this would be a neat sibling-bonding experience, and this is exactly what it’s turned out to be!

The first night of class, the Mr. and I anxiously waited for them to get home.

Chicky came in first, loudly announcing, “That was the worst thing I’ve ever had to do.  If I was a quitter, I would never go back.”

She then headed to the bathroom to grab a shower.

Rooster came in next and filled us in on the details.

See, although we’ve lived in Florida all of the kids’ lives, Chicky has never been particularly fond of “formal” swimming.

The kids learned to swim right after we moved to Miami.  This was the time I got to quit my job and become a stay-at-home mom.  Needing something to do with two children under the age of four, I took them swimming twice a day.

We would eat breakfast, let our tummies settle, and head out.  We went home in time for lunch and a nap.  Then, after a snack and a brief tummy-settling time, we headed back out for session #2.

Rooster learned to swim the summer he turned two, with Chicky learning around the same time.  She was four.

I paid for swimming lessons a few years later, just so they could learn how to do the strokes properly.

Chicky was not super fond of these sessions.

So, the kids grew up, attending pool parties and swimming pretty good.

Rooster swam on the middle school swim team during seventh and eighth grade.  He loved it!

Rooster’s coach was the nicest lady.  She also coached the high school team.

When Chicky tore her ACL in 9th grade, Coach offered to let her do laps with the high school team.  Swimming is one of the best cardio workouts and because it is non-weight-bearing, it is the perfect exercise when rehabbing.

Chicky showed up one morning, did a few laps, and declared herself non-swimming material.  She never went back.

With this history in mind, it’s a wonder she decided to take the lifeguard class in the first place!  But, the desire for a job and the money that goes along with it overruled her objections.

While she was in the shower, Rooster told us how she struggled during the 300 yard warm up.  100 freestyle, 100 breast stroke, and the last 100 whatever you wanted.

Chicky had no idea how to execute the breast stroke.  Kicking her legs out sideways really made her nervous given her knee stuff from years ago.  She’s uber-sensitive to some motions.

She doggy-paddled the last 100 yards, literally dog-tired.

Next, they had to swim from the shallow to the deep end of the pool, take a breath, and dive down to retrieve a 10lb brick and tote it back to the shallow end…in two minutes.

Chicky did pretty good, only coming up for air once before successfully grabbing the brick.

One other thing the students had to do was, while treading water, use the motion of their arms and hands to propel themselves up and then down through the water to touch bottom of the pool (11 feet, I think) with their toes.

Chicky has always been coordinated, but she could not get the hang of the motion.

Rooster said she kept going sideways under the water instead of straight down.

Poor girl.

Chicky came out of the shower, and it was Rooster’s turn, so we got Chicky’s side of the story.

She pretty much repeated the same things Rooster had said, but she told us something funny.

She said that at one point during the 300-yard warm-up, she got to the end of the pool, took a moment to catch her breath, and looked up at Rooster, asking, “Am I doing this right?”

Rooster squatted down and clapped his hands for her, encouraging her.

Oh my gosh, but when I heard this, my heart swelled with joy.

For those of you who have children who argue more than they hug, and I’m not talking hugging to squeeze the life out of the other, then let me give you this hope.

They do grow up.

They do wind up, most of the time, liking each other.

See, they have a commonality with each other that others don’t have.

They know what it’s like to be raised by their particular set of parents.  They can share the injustices of being grounded for “nothing,” doing chores til their fingers fell off (yeah, right), and eating burned food three nights in a row (heaven forbid).

The kids take the final test on Monday.  I have every confidence they’ll pass.

I also know that though my kids will have their own lives as they get older, they’ll always have this special week together.  It’s something they and I will cherish.

Chicky Turns 18!

My oh my, but it’s a big day in the AuburnChick home.

Today, January 22, is Chicky’s 18th birthday!

Last night, we waited for her to go to bed.  We gave ourselves an extra 30 minutes to ensure she was deep in sleep, and then we let loose with the streamers and balloons.

This is the hallway to Chicky’s bedroom.  We wanted her to feel special from the moment she got up.

The next picture is the view as you enter the kitchen from the hallway.  My house is a disaster right now, but you get the point.  Banners and streamers everywhere!

Even the coffee pot (shown in the picture below) didn’t escape attention!

The den and dining room also feel victim to the decorations…

I finally crawled into bed around 1am.  I couldn’t wait for Chicky to wake up.  It reminded me of her very first Christmas…the anticipation kept me psyched up.

I heard Chicky get up and walk in the kitchen (to get her cell phone, don’t ya know), and she exclaimed, “Think you put up enough streamers?!”

LOL

She was happy, I could tell.

That pleased me because this is HER day.

We decided to do presents in the morning because Chicky has a game tonight.  She opened cards from family first, and she happily discovered a check in each one.  Every teen loves money!

Then, Rooster gave her his gift…

It’s an insulated travel coffee mug!  With her recent foray into this coffee thing, she needed her own cup (she’s been using the Mr.’s), and she needed one that would keep the coffee warm.  Rooster also later gave her his Best Buy gift card…the one he had received for Christmas.  It still has about $8 left on it, and he wanted her to use it for her birthday.  Is that sweet or what?!

Next, Chicky opened the gift from the Mr. and me…

It’s a Visa gift card, and we explained that we want her to buy a Pea Coat or a certain dress she’s had her eye on.

Her eyes gleamed as she told us what she wanted to buy, which she could now afford if she put all of her birthday money together.

I got dressed, and we headed out to spend her $$…

She got herself a 32gb iPod Touch!  You should have seen the look on her face as she opened it up.  As one who loves technology, I have to say that it’s PURTY (as in pretty, but Southern-style, you know).

Next, we decided to go to lunch.  I mean, what can be better than lunch with your Mama on your 18th birthday?  (Yeah, I know that lunch with Guy Friend on your 18th birthday would probably trump the other, but humor me, okay?).

We saw cars parked in the lot in front of the new Panera that’s going up, and we thought maybe it would be open…

If you look closely, you’ll see the sign on the window that says “6 Days.”

Oy!  I do love me some Panera, and my mouth was watering.

Instead, we decided to head to a local eatery that is popular with the high schoolers.  This place serves up sandwiches and other lunch fair.  I’d never been there, so Chicky suggested what to order.

Oh my gosh, but it was delicious!  For $6, I got 1/2 sandwich, a side (black beans and rice), and a drink!  So, it was $12 for the two of us.  Not bad at all!

We chatted about every day stuff.  It was wonderful.

This has been an amazing day.  In some ways, it’s hard to believe that I’m the mom of an 18 year-old.  Yesterday, I pulled out her baby and toddler books, and as I read through them, I was astounded at the memories that flooded in.  I remember writing those words on those pages.  Could this much time have passed already?

For those of you with young children, it is so true when people tell you that time flies, and before you know it, they’ll be grown.  Some days seem to pass by slowly, especially when the children are younger and crying with croup.  But all of a sudden, you wake up and find yourself taking pictures of a daughter in a prom dress or a graduation gown, and then you think about how quickly those days actually flew by.

I’m not going to be a weepy mom.  I’m thrilled that Chicky has reached this milestone.  My #1 mantra as a parent is that I’m training my children to be independent and serve God.  Knowing that Chicky is on the cusp of spreading her wings and flying on her own makes me a teensy bit nervous, but I know that God will watch over my little Chicky as she leaves the nest.

Happy Birthday, Chicky.  You are special.  You are loved.  You were wanted and planned for and appreciated on the day you arrived.

Watching you grow and mature has been the greatest reward as your parent.  I pray that you always put God first in your life, and that you will always seek His will and trust Him through all that life may throw your way.

I love you!!

Love,

Mama♥

Reunion

When your child plays competitive soccer, you become a part of a very small, close-knit community.

After being a part of this “family” for a number of years, you begin running into soccer people everywhere!

The best part about this family is watching the kids grow up.  It’s also the hardest part because, as they get older, you have to let them go.

Not only do you say goodbye when the kids leave for college, but you bid adios to the parents as well.  These are the people you’ve shared rides to practices and tournaments with…people who have talked you through confusing, isolated roads to find soccer fields in remote areas.  These are the people you eaten soggy bagels at 6am in dark, quiet hotel lobbies with.  These are people you’ve shared late-night, after-the-game pasta dinners with.  And these are the people you shivered through the cold and rain and sweated through the heat of summer with.

Lots of memories are forged when you share tense moments on the field, the concern of injuries, and the joy of victories with.  Strong bonds result…which distance and time cannot break.

Tonight we were thrilled when Chicky’s best friend’s parents went out of their way to attend her game.  Chicky’s friend, the Marvelous Miss M, started college in August, so we haven’t seen this family since early last summer.

It was a joyous reunion as the Mr. and I caught up with them during the game.  Chicky was in for a treat.

After the game, Chicky met up with Mr. B, both sporting huge smiles.

And then Chicky spied Ms. J standing across the field.

They ran into each other’s arms, overcome with happiness…

You know me.  I’m emotional.  I’m sitting here with tears in my eyes even as I type this.

I get close to people, and my heart is warmed when I witness Chicky express her own love for others who have touched her life.

My Week – In Pictures

I’ve been a bad blogger this week.

Life has been hectic with me taking on a two-month subbing gig (yay for me!).  Soccer season officially kicked off, and I also attended the football game tonight.  As a result, the pictures are few in number.  I trust you’ll forgive me.  I hope to have some knitting stuff to show you next week.

On to the pictures!

All that's left of my Halloween candy

I paid $.22 per box!!

Samples and a coupon for free shampoo!

I love discovering the coupons that accompany free samples!

I often wonder what the girls discuss during their pre-game huddles. I often pray for them during these times.

My Crazy Brother

Yesterday, while I was pulling out photo albums for Chicky (she’s designing her senior ad for the yearbook), I came across her academic portfolio.  It is a snapshot of some of her best work and assessments from first through third grades.

The first thing I saw when I opened the binder was a self-portrait that Chicky made at the beginning of first grade…

You can see how much she enjoyed soccer way back then, and she had only played one season!!

Now, finding that picture was fun, but the next thing I found was even better.

It was a writing sample from third grade.  I scanned the pictures because it will have more of an impact than my typing the words out (read both pages)…

Page 1

Page 2

You could have heard us laughing all the way down the street.  I couldn’t even get through the first page without stopping several times to catch my breath.

 

The funnier thing?  I have a picture of Rooster biting his toenails!!  Chicky found it after reading this story.

There was a third page attached to the above story…

 

You may be wondering what this is.

Well, it’s a graphic organizer.  Students in this day and age are taught different strategies for organizing their ideas during the pre-writing phase.

Given my adoration of everything educational, and my children’s academic success over the years, it was icing on the cake.  We laughed even harder, impressed at Chicky’s thoroughness even in first grade.

The Red Plate

Last night we had a fancy dinner…chicken fingers and French fries.

Chicky got to eat her gourmet dinner on a very special plate…

This, my friends, is the Red Plate.

The Mr.’s aunt gave us this plate early in our marriage…perhaps the first Christmas after Chicky was born.

It came in a pretty box with a permanent marker.

The intent was that we save it for special occasions, serve the honoree’s meal on it, and write the date and specifics on the back.

A few days ago, I saw the plate’s box on the top shelf of one of my cabinets.  The image must have gotten stuck in my brain.

I remember briefly thinking that I had not used it in a very long time.  Chicky’s first day of her Senior year of high school certainly was worthy of climbing on the counter to retrieve it.

As I pulled it out, she chuckled (fancy dinner to be eating on it…NOT), and started reading through the events I had noted on the back.

Ahhh…the memories…

Please allow me to share them:

  • 11/13/95:  Chicky did not wet her bed all night & did not wear a pull-up!
  • 5/11/96:  Chicky learned to swim.  No more swimmies!
  • 1/6/97:  Chicky doesn’t sleep with a night light anymore!
  • 1/?/97:  Chicky had 1st dental appt yesterday!
  • 3/31/97:  Rooster threw away his pacifier!
  • ?/11/97:  Chicky learned to ride a bike w/o training wheels
  • 9/11/98:  Rooster wrote his name for the first time.
  • 10/21/98:  Rooster used the potty @ school.
  • 11/2/98:  Rooster learned to ride his bike without training wheels!
  • ?/28/99:  Chicky lost 1st tooth!
  • 2/5/99:  Rooster learned to tie his shoes!
  • 3/26/00:  Rooster’s first baseball game.
  • ?/?/00:  Chicky’s first basketball game.  2 baskets made!
  • 1/17/01:  Rooster mastered a very difficult speech whistle.
  • 1/20/01:  Rooster scored first soccer goal!
  • 6/13/01:  Rooster lost 1st tooth!
  • 10/30/01:  Rooster is dismissed from speech!!
  • 8/24/09:  Chick’s first day of 12th grade.

Although the dates of some of the events have worn off (I will shellac the back of the plate when Rooster leaves home), what can’t be erased are the memories.  These are small snapshots of my children’s childhood…each moment special and celebrated by the four of us.

Every time I have placed the plate in front of one of the kids, their faces have lit up.

I could tell that Chicky enjoyed the extra bit of attention.

Rather than putting the plate back in the cabinet, I am going to set it on the counter on a plate holder.  This way we’ll always have it at the ready.  I suspect that this will be a big year for extra special meals…even if we only eat chicken fingers.

An Old Memory

Today, when Rooster and I got home from running errands, I saw my neighbor sitting outside, watching her two young children play.

As I said hello, her son said, “Watch me.”

His mom explained that 15 minutes earlier, he had learned how to ride his bicycle.

This was significant to me because just last week, as his mom and I talked, I watched him struggle.  Over and over again, I observed as he tried his best to get himself started.  That’s probably the hardest part of learning to ride…getting the wheels going.  But he didn’t have the balancing down either.

Today, I stood amazed as I watched him fly down the sidewalk.

He’s four years old, and his bike is tiny.  But, it’s a two-wheeler with no training wheels.

As he pedaled back in my direction, I saw his huge smile.  He was so proud of himself.

His mom’s face mirrored his own.

I felt so privileged to witness this momentous event, and I was taken back to the day that Chicky learned to ride her bike.

We lived in an apartment in South Florida, and we had gotten her a bike for either her birthday or Christmas.

We took her to the basketball court, which was unoccupied at the moment.  We figured that the smooth surface would be easier for her to learn on.

The Mr. stood behind her bike, reassuring her that he wouldn’t let go.

And off he ran…Chicky pedaling as hard as she could go.

They went back and forth a couple of times.

And then…

The Mr. let go…

And Chicky didn’t know…

She flew halfway across the court before she figured out that Daddy had let go, which prompted her to lose focus and fall down.

She was a quick learner…no surprise there…and easily mastered getting started on her own.
It’s a memory that was buried until this afternoon.

The feelings that accompany such times are mixed.  On the one hand, you feel joy as you watch your children experience the freedom they were longing for.  You also experience a twinge of sadness that your children have, in some way, discovered that they don’t need your hand to hold them steady.

We had an unofficial rule in our home regarding bikes.  Every two years, the kids got a new ones.  And it was always bigger to accommodate their growth.  At first, they would teeter a bit, but it never took long for them to be jumping cracks in the sidewalk, as confident as they were on the older, smaller bikes.

As the years have gone by, we’ve once again replaced wheels…exchanging two for four…as in cars.  Just as we stood behind them giving them advice on how to steady themselves on their bikes, we’re now giving advice on how to stay safe amongst other four-wheeled modes of transportation.  I think this time we’re more scared than they are.

Watching my young neighbor learn to ride made me feel like the Mr. and I are behind Chicky’s bike again…barely holding on as she begins her ride toward adulthood.  In one week, she’ll officially be a “Senior” in high school.  She knows how to pedal, and every day she learns to balance herself a little more.  Soon, we’ll let go for good and watch her ride away.

Am I ready?

I think so.

But I’m also a little sad.

Ouch!

That’s what the back of Rooster’s arms looked like yesterday when he got home from Band Camp.

It was only Day 2 of a two-week camp.

He used sunscreen but, obviously, forgot a couple of places.

Can you say aloe?