Here I sit on the Sunday following the Friday in which my heart broke.
The Mr. and I spent that Friday evening lost in our own thoughts.
Or rather, I spent the time blogging, and he watched a show about sharks.
There obviously wasn’t much on TV.
Saturday, we arose at the crack of dawn so we could get an early start home.
When the alarm went off, my first thought was of Chicky who was, at that moment, on the soccer field enduring her first fitness test.
My poor girl had to wake up at 5:15 to have enough time to eat. That’s 4:15 Central time, which is what we’re on at home (yes, parts of Florida are in the Central time zone).
The Mr. and I wearily got in the car for the long drive home.
As we left the parking lot, the GPS instructed us to “follow the highlighted route.”
“Make a left at blah-blah street, then make a right,” she chirped in an upbeat voice.
“Sounding a little too chipper this morning,” the Mr. mumbled back.
Ugh.
Can I tell you how hard it was to leave Lakeland behind?
I didn’t leave in one piece because half of my heart was still there, at that college, with my baby girl.
“Drive 101 miles on I75,” I heard GPS lady say.
“101 miles away from Chicky,” I said to nobody in particular.
Grrrr…
Away we went.
I pulled out my much-neglected knitting and was soothed by the rhythmic motion of knits and purls.
We listened to the radio as we drove.
Big mistake.
Do not ever listen to the radio when you are sad.
The Radio Gods have a conspiracy to play songs to make you even more miserable.
Changing stations does not help.
Christian, Country, and Oldies know what you’re thinking, and they play songs accordingly.
It was like a bad movie.
Like Transformers.
Where the car plays songs to communicate with Shia.
The first song to bring on the tears was George Strait’s, “I Saw God…”
Here are the lyrics, with the part that made me boo hoo in bold…
I just walked down the street to the coffee shop
had to take a break
I’d been by her side for eighteen hours straight
I saw a flower growing in the middle of the sidewalk
pushing up through the concrete
like it was planted right there for me to see
the flashin’ lights, the honkin’ horns
all seemed to fade away
in the shadow of that hospital at 5:08
I saw God today
Chorus:
I’ve been to church
I’ve read the book
I know He’s here, but I don’t look
near as often as I should
Yeah, I know I should
His fingerprints are everywhere
I’d just slow down to stop and stare
opened my eyes and man I swear
I saw God today
I saw a couple walking by they were holding hands
Man, she had that glow
yeah I couldn’t help but notice she was starting to show
I stood there for a minute takin’ in the sky
lost in that sunset
a splash of amber melted in the shades of red
Chorus
I got my face pressed up against the nursery glass
She’s sleeping like a rock
My name on her wrist wearing tiny pink socks
She’s got my nose, she’s got her mama’s eyes
My brand new baby girl
She’s a miracle
I saw God today
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I wiped my face, and we drove on.
We stopped for gas and a bite to eat.
I don’t remember the next song that hit, but it was a Christian song.
Oh my gosh. Would this never end? Just when I thought I was okay, I realized I wasn’t.
To make matters worse, we were hoping to hear from Chicky. We longed to find out how her fitness test had gone.
We had planned to stop in Tallahassee to eat lunch with Super Sis and Super D. About an hour out, my phone rang.
It was Chicky!
She had me put her on speaker phone.
She sounded wonderful!
She had scored a 99 on her fitness test! The players were expected to make a 90 or above.
All of her 6am summer workouts with her sports trainer proved worthwhile. He had prepared her well.
She was so happy!
Our hearts sang with joy, and after hanging up the phone, we could not wipe the smiles off of our faces.
Until we hit Tallahassee, and I saw my sister.
The tears that lurked right below the surface threatened to come out.
Actually, I think they did, because I excused myself to run to the restroom.
Ugh.
We had a wonderful lunch, though, at Bagel Bagel. The Mr. talked with his brother about work stuff, and Super Sis and I chatted about my classes.
I shared the story of Rooster’s Mohawk, and they laughed with us.
It was a wonderful time of sharing and took my mind off of Chicky.
Then, it was time to begin the final leg of the journey.
I called Rooster to give him a heads-up.
It felt strange pulling into the driveway without Chicky.
I gave Rooster a HUGE hug when I saw him.
I don’t know why, but the last couple of weeks of “stuff” unloaded themselves from my shoulders.
I was struck with a sudden urge to straighten the house.
Rooster helped out.
I cleaned out the Jeep…the vehicle that Chicky’s drove. She did not take it down with her because we cannot afford to buy another car. With Chicky gone, Rooster will have more opportunities to practice his driving before he gets his license.
I carefully removed her graduation tassel and the cross she received from the Chrysalis retreat she attended a few years ago – items that were hanging from the rear-view mirror.
I found a large, silver key on a white key chain in the middle console.
I found earrings, t-shirts, and towels in the back seat, along with a pair of sneakers.
I began collecting some of the things I found into a pile to mail to her next week.
I handed Rooster the Jeep key and told him to remove the fobs he did not want.
Yeah. I think all of the girlie stuff went away in a flash.
Sigh.
It felt like a changing of the guards.
I know that Chicky hasn’t completely left, but it feels like she has.
My afternoon went on.
After the house was back to my liking, I sat down to watch TV.
Rooster and I watched the news and saw a clip about the owl video that is getting a lot of hits on YouTube.
A couple set up a video camera to record the comings and goings of a family of owls, and we saw footage of the baby owls leaving the nest.
Yeah.
I teared up.
Rooster chuckled at this.
You guys. If you’ve never said goodbye to a child, let me tell you that the sadness hits when you least expect it.
Like this morning, when I was getting ready to leave for church.
Out of habit, I went to Chicky’s bedroom and opened the door…
Only to face an empty room.
At church, I signed the attendance sheet…
Three names instead of four.
Sigh.
Life, post heartbreak, is different from before.
It will get better. I know this.
It is the adjustment period that, quite honestly, sucks.
Strong words, I know. Please forgive me, but the thesaurus just doesn’t have a word that better describes the feeling.
Anyhoo…
I thank God for providing the new adventure that is my job.
I thank Him for blessing me with a wonderful family and sympathetic friends, both in real life and online.
And I thank God for being with my Chicky…helping her clogged toilet to “magically” fix itself that first night.
Life, post heartbreak, is, well, LIFE.
You go on. You drive each mile. You put one foot in front of the other. You check your phone hourly to see if certain “people” decided to grace you with a hello.
You keep on breathing, and you keep on doing.
As one of my favorite heroines would say, “Tomorrow is another day.”
And so it is, and so it is.
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